Who is in your circle? 17 May 2015 | by Simon Bailey | Under emerging leader, Shift
Guest Blogger – Nicole Matthews
This BLOG will help you sort out unneeded things and people in your life, who add stress to your life. Enjoy and leave s your comment.
As we say goodbye to Spring and welcome the summer heat, did you finish your spring-cleaning? Have you celebrated the joy of having a clean closet, an organized office and computer files that you can actually find.
Rid yourself of what is no longer needed, and focus on what brings you joy.
I encourage you to do the same analysis of the people you surround yourself with on a regular basis. We are by-products of the people we spend the most time with, so chose wisely.
Take out a piece of paper right now and write down a list of the 10 people you spend the most time with. These can be both personally and professionally. Then decide if these top 10 folks are really basement dwellers or penthouse cheerleaders.
Basement dwellers are your negative nellies. They are the first to tell you that you can’t or shouldn’t, when in reality they are intimidated that you might just be more successful then they could ever dream to be. These are the people that say no because yes seems far too scary.
If I decided to move myself to the depths of the Amazon to make jewelry with my indigenous sisters, my basement dwellers would remind me that I don’t like hot weather; I’m not a fan of mosquito’s the size of condors nor will I like to live off the grid without internet and running water. My basement dwellers would convince me my dream was not worth another thought. But realize, that their lack of enthusiasm for my dream has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with their lack of courage. Basement dwellers are narrow-minded because change is scary, and they are more comfortable being content. I get restless when I’m content because it means I’m not stretching myself.
Your penthouse cheerleaders always start from a place of yes. Whatever crazy idea you might have, they are going to encourage you to make your dream a reality and be waving their pom-pom’s in support. In the same scenario as above, my penthouse cheerleaders would buy me a map so I would really know how far south I was heading for the winter. They would also see if Rosetta Stone had a program for the native dialect, and send me links to websites that have cute travel clothes. They would question my intentions to make sure I had thought of everything; but not with a negative intention. Penthouse cheerleaders don’t say yes to every idea you might have without helping you to analyze the decision. They aren’t pushovers; but rather, they want to make sure they are a solid sounding board. In the end, the penthouse cheerleaders are going to be as excited for your journey as they would be for themselves. In fact, more than likely, they will plan on being your first visitor once you get your mosquito tent all set up!
It is important to take inventory of the people you are surrounding yourself with on a fairly consistent basis. Whales aren’t born with barnacles; the barnacles get stuck to them over time. Friends are the same way. Without setting your basement dwellers free, we allow their voices to become our doubts. Enough already! The great thing about life is that it is yours to design – choose cheerleaders!
Nicole R. Matthews is Founder & Lifestyle Architect of The Henley Company, LLC., a global event, travel and lifestyle concierge firm. Nicole just published her first book, Permission – Stop Competing & Start Creating The Life You Want to Live
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